Why Your Quest for Self-Discipline Is Draining You Instead of Empowering You
05/24/2026
A few years ago, I met a doctoral student who was on the verge of quitting. She was overwhelmed by coursework, language barriers, and the constant fear of not being good enough. Like many of us, she believed the solution was to try harder—to discipline herself more strictly. But something unexpected happened when she finally […]
What We Truly Lack Isn’t Learning Ability — It’s the Ability to Retrieve What You Already Know
05/24/2026
Have you ever had that moment when you suddenly realize you’ve accumulated a lot over the years—but none of it comes to mind exactly when you need it? You’ve read books, taken courses, saved notes. Yet in a meeting, while writing, or when making a decision, the right knowledge stays buried. We spend enormous energy […]
Why Smart People Never Wait to “Think It Through”
05/23/2026
We’ve all heard the advice: “Think before you act.” But if you look closely at people who actually get things done—the ones who build companies, write books, or pivot careers—they don’t wait until they have a perfect plan. They start before they’re ready. This isn’t recklessness. It’s a different kind of intelligence. The trap of […]
The Overparenting Trap: When More Isn’t Better
05/23/2026
A striking feature of modern parenting is the unspoken belief that every extra hour of effort translates directly into a better future for the child. This assumption is worth examining—and it doesn’t hold up well. Let’s be clear: parenting matters, but not nearly as much as most people think. Decades of behavioral genetics and twin […]
Everything You Learned Never Truly Disappears
05/23/2026
You’ve been saving notes, bookmarking articles, recording thoughts for years. You know you have a mountain of stuff in there. But when you open ChatGPT and ask it for help, you start from scratch. When you open your reading list, you don’t know where to begin. It’s not a lack of effort. It’s a problem […]
Boris Cherny：Claude Code 之后，写代码正在变成“管理 Agent”
05/23/2026
Forward Deployed Engineer：AI 时代的新宠岗位，到底干什么？
05/23/2026
为什么我不“凭感觉编程”
05/23/2026
True Unity of Knowing and Doing Isn’t About Forcing Yourself
05/23/2026
I used to think that "unity of knowing and doing" meant you had to push yourself relentlessly. If you knew something was good for you, you just gritted your teeth and did it. That’s how I approached morning runs, reading routines, even showing up for difficult conversations. And it worked—for a while. But every time […]
Got Goals but No Motivation? Try the Inside-Out Approach
05/23/2026
You set a goal. You wrote it down. You told yourself this time would be different. A week later, the spreadsheet is gathering dust, the gym bag hasn’t moved, and you’re back to scrolling through nonsense at midnight. Sound familiar? Here’s what most people get wrong: they treat motivation as a single switch. Flip it […]

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